Monday, August 20, 2007

The right way, the wrong way, the Iman way and the Ayzah way...

There is the right way of doing things with kids and there is a wrong way. Then there is the way that we went while raising Iman, and now, a new path that we have chosen with Ayzah.

As our first born, Iman has suffered a lot of our "mistakes". Some things we did out of love for her, and some things we did because we weren't too sure of ourselves. But now, when I look back, I feel I could have handled certain things better. And then God gave us a do-over in form of Ayzah.

Now we have all the experience of Iman, and a brand new baby to do things right with. We're watching our steps more carefully and making sure we don't make the same mistakes that we did the last time. But as amusing as it may be, we're making new mistakes!

The lucky thing is that parenting is an on going process, and most mistakes can be fixed or outgrown. But there's one lesson that we've learned by heart... there's no way we can be perfect parents.

8 Comments:

At 11:35 PM, Blogger Shezalldat said...

oh God, plz tell us common mistakes when raising two kids. im so scared abt what would happen once the second one comes!~

 
At 9:08 AM, Anonymous pi said...

aww..u are the perfect parent! =)

 
At 11:07 AM, Anonymous Shalini said...

Hi, I am Shalini from India. I have started reading your blog since past couple of days. You know an interesting coincidence is I also have 2 kids, a boy (Harshul, elder one) and a girl (Jiya, younger one). Harshul's DOB is also 27th May as Iman's and Jiya's DOB is 21st April (One day more than Ayzah's).
Another coincidence is my mom's b'day is on 15th Aug (India's Independence day) and your mom's on 14th Aug (Pakistan's Independence day).
So lot of coincidences.....do we identify with each other, yes maybe in parenting.

 
At 11:42 AM, Blogger Mona said...

i think the real lesson in here is that no way but your way is the best for your child.
rock on, hina, you're perfect in Imaan and Ayzah's eyes (atleast for a couple years ;)) and nothing else matters, yes?

 
At 11:54 AM, Blogger Hina said...

Sheza, first mistake we made... how to manage our time. To have enough Iman time, enough, Ayzah time, enough family time, enough couple time AND enough me time. Ha haha, there isn't enough time in the day anymore, but you kind of have to cram it all in there. Initially I couldn't give Iman any attention (with repeated breastfeeding etc.) But now we've got it all pulled together. I always wanted each of my children to have individual time with me, and then group time as a family. So let's see... so far so good. Iman gets her time when Ayzah naps, and Ayzah gets her time when Iman is off to school. Family time is always in the late afternoons and before bedtime.

Shalini, that IS a wierd coincidence. Keep reading, I'm sure we've got a lot more in common than you think!

Mona, I hope to be a good mom in their eyes always. But I know somewhere between 12-19 I'll always be the bad guy.

 
At 7:58 AM, Anonymous Mona said...

Hina,
I'm having awful luck getting the number of any 'massage women'. i'm so sorry about this. i'm wokring on it though, i promise to get you the number as soon as i have it.

 
At 3:39 AM, Blogger Lorraine said...

All we can ever do is our best and trust God to keep and bless our kids in spite of us!

 
At 10:05 AM, Blogger jammie said...

i think by realizing that you cant be perfect parents- you ARE perfect parents. it means that nothing can ever happen that you will not be prepared for inshallah and that in parenting is the best and most wonderful thing. :)

 

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