Saturday, September 09, 2006

Comfort Zones

We've all had friends who were our "other halves".

Kiran is like that for me.

We met at a mutual friend's party, and it was another 2 days later that we realized that we were meant for each other. She's just a quirky as I can be. She's a great listener. She's an even better talker! She loves to stand by her word (even when she realizes that she's wrong!). She's a perfect blend of eastern and western culture. And my favorite... she's just as neurotic about cleaning as I am :)

Our husbands get along really well. Our kids are the same age. We can meet at breakfast and spend the whole day together, and at 1 in the morning, we still want to stay another hour.

Zain, her husband, is totally cool with Iman. Since they have a son, Hassan, who is also 2, he has no hang-ups about our little one. He’ll sit and feed her. He’ll take her out for a walk, he’ll even sit and indulge her while she eagerly involves him in a tea party.

For Kiran, Iman is like her own daughter. She’ll cook for her, take her to the bathroom, play with her, and love her incredibly.

I’ve never had to think twice before asking them for something. And when they moved away last year, I didn’t know how we would live.

A year later her husband has gotten another job and they’ve moved back. Kiran got here this weekend, and she insisted that we come along for all the major household shopping and help set up the place. Her explanation…

“It’s going to be your house too, so you should have a fair say in what you want and where you want it”.

I’m so glad they’re back. I don't know how I got through last year without her.


At 12:19 AM, Blogger Lorraine said...

Lovely. Those kinds of friends are such a gift. And it's so great for the kids, too, to have other adults who are, in a way, "parenting" them with mom and dad. It will especially come in handy when they are older and might not feel like they can talk to their own parents about something but have these other trusted adults (who mom and dad also trust) to go to. Love it.

At 2:38 PM, Blogger DariushAlavi said...

There's some oft-quoted line somewhere about how friendship is one of the purest, most beautiful things for which two human beings can strive. I would certainly subscribe to that point of view and I think it's wonderful that you can be together with your friend again.

At 11:31 AM, Blogger Faisal Khan said...

Keep a rabbits foot with you for good luck. Good friends are hard to find *knock-on-wood*

At 4:29 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh may God help your new found friends (funny, they think of you as aquaint-ten-ces). Knowing YOU, you'd probably chipkoo-fy with them as well - like phucking super-glue and sh*it. Be all mushy-mushy. Can you just like learn to be a little be distant.... God knows how much sh*t we have to put up with with respect to your blog.

At 9:10 PM, Blogger Hina said...

anonymous, if it bothers you so much, please don't visit the blog.

At 8:39 AM, Anonymous Omair said...


So I guess you dont have friends hunh?


At 2:04 PM, Blogger bakpakchik said...

I have a theory about anonymous posters.

I believe they are fucking ugly cunts with no brain and really bad halitosis and hence have to live a life of anonymity (and as they have no life of their own, they have to pass rude comments on that of others).


At 7:10 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

@bakpakchic: At least I have a cunt (something obviously you don't have). You about-to-burst, offspring of a vaginal wart gone bad.

At 10:05 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

...hina, can't you just delete this idiot's spewing?...

At 2:44 AM, Blogger Shezalldat said...

:O! people people! this is a baby's blog! plzzzzz mind ur language! we dont want lil eeman growing up to read THIS!

hinamommy: i'm craving that kind of a friend right now. i have that friend in me mommy. i wish she'd move back soon!

At 11:21 AM, Blogger Faisal Khan said...


Just disallow anonymous comments on your blog so that such vile language is not present.



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